Inferiority Lessons Learned

Insight via TV its been a while since a TV show written for entertainment purposes has granted me an insight, but I have received one.  Color me shocked. I have been watching Reign about Mary the queen of the Scots. Mary is a young queen who was promised from a very young age to marry the next king of France. However at this time in the show Scotland is in dire need of troops and supplies to fend off the English. Mary has no alleys in Court and no power of influence; she is having to make her way from nothing. So as to not ruin the show for those who would wish to watch it I will say nothing more than Mary is able to succeed in putting herself and her country in a better position.

I could pick this show apart in comparison to the bible and its characters, but that is not what grabbed me and has kept me up tonight.

What grabbed me was that Mary was willing to set a diplomat known to be hostile to her free, one that eluded to trying to have her poisoned, in the name of doing right. Be it as you may it was also to free herself from a betrothal to a monster of a man and she used it to renegotiate another betrothal. She still could have not seen to have the hostile diplomat freed before his execution. She could have waited until his death and quietly achieved the same with much more power at her disposal than had she not.

Such is the politics of Court. Such is the politics of users and takers. That which you can hold over another person's head in shame is power. 

But what does Court do to those whom it can't shame? It works to make them feel inferior. Worthless. Because a person who is not ashamed of being human, of their faults, is a danger that cannot be controlled in that manner.

The question then becomes are they inferior? I say not. For once the worthless realizes their power over the Court because they cannot be manipulated via fault or shame said person has real power. Power that can destroy or build. And there in lies the the reason of making this person feel worthless. For this person operates outside of the known and accepted parameters, uses their own moral compass and more importantly thinks for them self. 

And what is the most dangerous thing to establishments? Persons who think for themselves. Individuals.

I will give you fair reader one guess as to the type of person I value.

Individual

Ok so apparently I have developed a new pet peeve. I can't stand being described as somebody's whatever.

For some reason I don't mind the family association, but to be introduced as Nicole (insert person's name) (insert relationship) bugs me to no end. Example Jessica introducing me as "This is Nicole, Jon's Ex"

For some reason I take it like I am being introduced as their property or something. Yeah I know I am weird, get over it I have to live with it. It makes me feel like I am not worth knowing unless I am a part of someone else. Sorry folks, but I am my own person and I am worth knowing as my own person.

While at the same time I understand the need to have some point of reference for knowing someone, it still bugs me. Relationships are important, but they do not define me and that is a very odd stance for a woman to take. As most women will do just about anything to preserve relationships because a woman is geared to live in them, I flat out refuse to be defined by them. Thinking back this is a personality trait of mine, because for as long as I can remember I have not cared about who I was friends with so long as they had a code they lived by, could tollerate some off the wall conversations (I like to discet most things add nausium) and posses a personality they were not afraid to show even if it was a bit off from the social norm.

Stranger Danger

Pretty much every child knows to not trust a stranger.

But in light of the recent scandals involving well known faces from the TV one has to ask how well do  you really know someone? How many people you think you know, do you really know?

Trust is such a fragel thing. Hard to build and so easy to break and with our obsession to gossip and tear apart each other it is not suprising everyone seems to live behind a mask.

Micro Agression Version 2.0

Are you tired of this topic yet? Too bad I am not. In fact I have been talking to every person I know about it trying to understand and get a better feel of it. After all I do not have school aged kids to draw information from.

An on that note ...

I have been informed that my theory of it being a responce to the sports inclined having an advantage in school is erronious due to the fact that direct violence to the geeks, etc. is frowned upon by the student body as a whole.

So I took another leap.

Why would very intelligent young adults feel the need to impose such difficult relationships on each other? Why make communication, which is third hand really, so much more difficult? (communication is done by words, words are symbols of ideas, thus you recieve an idea third hand due to translation)

Could they being attempting to teach something? If they are attempting to teach us fossils of a by gone error; what could it be?

If they are teaching and that is their end game then I can only assume (hey we all know what that saying is) that they are trying to highlight the left over issues that are ingrained into our society, but we can't seem to shake. Issues such as racism or the repression of any social group. After all that is what most of the Mirco Agression addresses; I ask where you are from, you take it as an implication that you do not belong because you can claim some protected social class.

Or perhaps are they trying to show us exactly how sensitive these topics are by taking the reaction to any percieved minute action to the extreme?

Maybe they are just bored? Perhaps the educational system is failing our future by not allowing our future to access information at the speeds they can process it?

A Sports Society?

I have been reading a few articles, blogs and the such on the new micro-aggression thing taking over colleges.

Micro-aggression for those who are not familiar is in short terms the use of language to exclude or belittle a person. Asking a person of a different ethnic background where they are from could be seen as a Miro-aggression as it implies that the person is not from America or the local area, thus does not belong.

Now why did I label a post the way I did and start with Micro-aggression?

Sports are all about competition. The pitting of one's self against another or the pitting of a group against another group using rules to govern what is acceptable and what is not acceptable or fair play.

Sports encourage winning, or gaining one more point over the opposition. This is a game of "one up" is something that those who enjoy and excel at sports become exceptionally good at and drag into their every day lives.

Sports encourage defensive and offensive thinking; if I do this then the results could be that and planning for both in an attempt to get your opponent to show a weak spot. This game of "gotcha" is again something that those who excel and enjoy sports become exceptionally good at and bring into their every day lives.

Now I am not saying that competition is wrong or evil, but look at who makes the most money in our society and gets the most attention. No longer is it the artists. No longer is it the scientists. For the artist and scientist mind is not geared toward these games of "one up" or "gotcha" in fact those minds would be sorely hampered and harmed by the prevalence of those games for they do not naturally think in those lines.

Perhaps this new generations insistence on enforcing Micro-aggression social rules is a result of the above? After all I know from my own long out dated experience in high school that the schools catering to the "jock" mentality was detrimental to those of the intellectual and artistic mind set.

Perhaps this is coming out the way it is because the up and coming generation recognises America's need to be innovators again and this was the only way they could as a group without discrimination possibly support those that would be innovators?

Or perhaps this is a cry for an actual civilized society, instead of one ran by highly intelligent animals.

Either way its gonna reek havoc on day to day communications and cause even more of a gap between the generations.

All Joking Aside

I have always wondered why people feel the need to mock others? Mimic I get, people do some rather amusing things and copying allows a reliving of the moment. But to Mock? I know it is a power play, maybe that is why. Could it be that the person doing the mocking felt that they had lost control of something important and the only way to attempt to regain control is thru belittling the person they lost control to?